Don’t get married until you answer these 21 questions.
Before the ring. Before the wedding. Before forever.
What if you’re in love… but you haven’t asked the questions marriage will force you to answer? The 21 Questions is a guided conversation book that helps couples have the discussions that matter most — before saying “I do.”
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Before forever begins
Ninety seconds on the moment every couple dreams about — and the conversations that should come before it.
The problem
Most couples prepare for a wedding. Few prepare for a marriage.
You may know their favourite food. Their childhood stories. How they like their coffee or tea. And still not know how they think about money, children, family, sex, conflict, ambition, boundaries, faith, or partnership.
Communication gaps don't appear on the wedding day — they show up months and years later. These questions aren't designed to scare you out of marriage. They're designed to help you enter it with more certainty that you’ve chosen the right partner.
Meet the book
The 21 Questions
Twenty-one honest conversations — money, children, faith, conflict, family, intimacy, ambition — sequenced from light to deep, each with a guided worksheet for both of you. Read it on any device, or print it and write in the margins.
- Conversations
- 21
- Bonus worksheets
- 21
- Delivery
- Instant
Inside the book
The 21 questions
21 questions designed to make you pause, think deeper, and have more honest conversations about your relationship, your partner, and the life you want to build together. Here are three of them — the other eighteen are waiting inside.
I · The Foundations
- 01Why Do I Want to Marry This Person?
- 02Unlocked with the book
- 03Unlocked with the book
- 04Unlocked with the book
- 05How Will We Handle Money?
II · The People & the Love
- 06Unlocked with the book
- 07Unlocked with the book
- 08Unlocked with the book
- 09Unlocked with the book
- 10Do We Share the Same Views on Intimacy and Physical Affection?
III · Growing Together
- 11Unlocked with the book
- 12Unlocked with the book
- 13Unlocked with the book
- 14Unlocked with the book
- 15Unlocked with the book
IV · The Long View
- 16Unlocked with the book
- 17Unlocked with the book
- 18Unlocked with the book
- 19Unlocked with the book
- 20Unlocked with the book
- 21Unlocked with the book
Every question comes with a bonus worksheet — space for both of you to answer, before you talk.
How it works
One worksheet at a time. That's it.
Make space
Put your phones away. Clear the distractions. Give yourself uninterrupted time to think, write and be completely honest.
Write first, then talk
You each answer in your worksheet before you speak — so the quieter one of you is never talked over.
One conversation at a time
The questions are sequenced from light to deep on purpose. Trust the order; let it build.
Who this is for
If forever is on the table
Engaged couples
The ring is on. Before the venue and the guest list — this.
Couples discussing marriage
You both feel it coming. Walk in knowing what you’re agreeing to.
Serious relationships
Not engaged yet — but done with guessing where this is going.
Premarital counseling
A structured companion for counselors, pastors, and the couples they guide.
Written for real couples — not perfect ones!
Every couple I have ever admired had one thing in common: they never stopped being curious about each other. This book is that curiosity, written down — the questions I believe every couple deserves to be asked.
They adore it!
One good question can change the whole evening.
Get the Book — ₦10,000“We did one chapter a week over dinner. By chapter three we were having conversations we'd been avoiding for years — gently.”
“I bought it for date night material. What we actually got was a completely different understanding of each other's families, money habits, and fears.”
“The worksheet is the genius part. Writing first meant I finally said things I always swallow in the moment.”
Everything you get
Start the conversation tonight
- The Us Questions — the complete book, beautifully typeset (PDF)
- Bonus: 21 conversation worksheets — guided prompts and reflection exercises, one per question
- Instant delivery — your download link lands in your inbox the moment payment clears
- Yours for good — read the book, print the worksheet, and write your thoughts.
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What exactly do I get when I buy?
The complete book as a beautifully typeset PDF, plus the companion worksheet in both PDF and spreadsheet formats. Your download link arrives by email the moment payment is confirmed.
Is this for new couples or long-term relationships?
Both. The questions are sequenced from light to deep, so new couples build a foundation while long-term partners rediscover things they stopped asking about.
How do we actually use it?
One night a week works best. You each write your answers in the worksheet first, then talk. One chapter at a time — the order matters.
What payment methods do you accept?
Payment is handled securely by Paystack — card, bank transfer, or USSD. We never see or store your card details.